Balance in life is very important. Every human being faces the one struggle that is truly important to engage with. This is the struggle to maintain some balance between your experience of the external world and you internal world. Failure to maintain balance has a role in every single psychological problem and also in many physical problems. So please watch this video, at the end I give three ways to help maintain or recover balance.
Alexithymia is a form of neglect that is specifically directed at emotions and their meaning. The problem this causes is that it is harder to read other people's emotions and it is harder to know what you feel about something; in essense if this trait causes a problem it can be very confusing trying to understand what is happening. Your brain will tell you that you have a physical problem while your hidden emotions cause all sorts of physical issues.
An article by Eliza Burdon.
I had a client recently (Eliza) who started to talk about the experience of panic as a seemingly uncontrollable journey. I liked that idea very much and we started to call it The Chaos Train. I asked her to write an article about it as it seemed such a useful idea.
The train stops at stations on its journey to the hub. Along the way it picks up passengers and freight, (burdens to take to the hub) as each hub is reached the burdens are delivered and the result of them expressed. In the case of this particular Chaos Train they are panic, anxiety and sadness.
I think the fascinating insight Eliza had was that it all felt really chaotic and out of control. Of course it feels like that because it is panic but it is not as chaotic as it feels. The train has to stop at the stations on the way to the hub and pick up burdens otherwise there is nothing to take to the hub and nothing to be expressed. By making choices and deliberately not stopping at the stations on...
In this video Dr David Purves explains why anxiety is a terrible force that destroys your happiness. It puts an edge of fear on every experience and it never seems to be satisfied. Living with anxiety is like always wanting to look over your shoulder; just in case. No evidence ever seems enough to satisfy the urge to be sure. The thinking part of anxiety is worry. But your whole body is also affected that is why it is hard to settle down and relax. The best friend of anxiety is depression. These almost always go together. Not feeling safe with few obvious options to resolve it is depressing. Being unable to feel safe and secure as you go through life can spoil everything. In my professional life I treat anxiety and its best friend depression every day. I know that virtually everyone who suffers from these twins of misery has had to do certain things to create their problems in the first place. I have called these The Five Doors to Anxiety. You must have passed through at least one...
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