I know it seems like a curious thing to say but nevertheless here it is. Each day you live you are practicing the process of living as you lived yesterday. Yesterday is a blueprint or a pattern for the next day, and so on. It seems very unlikely that tomorrow will be so drastically different from today that you go WOW…I didn’t see that coming. When that does happen it’s either because of a holiday or some other (maybe) planned experience or it’s because of an accident. Which by definition you didn’t see coming.
So each day is a practice run for tomorrow. Here is the million-dollar question. Is today how you want it to be? If so brilliant; tomorrow will also, more than likely, be how you want it to be. If, however your today is not how you want it to be then you have only two options. The first is to simply accept this and make the best of it. Which I have to say is what most people seem to do. The other option is to change your day, today, and so...
Once you accept that computer based CBT is as face to face CBT in treating depression and anxiety then you have no excuses that stand up to scrutiny for allowing these life sapping problems to remain in your life. You need some additional knowledge and that comes from The computer based CBT course but that's almost all you need. The final bit of what you need is revealed in the third video of this 3 part series.
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Strong negative emotions, such as those in depression, anxiety, stress and panic create a psychic gravitational pull that sucks you closer and closer into the problem. When you feel so close it's all you can see then it seems much larger than it is. Your emotional pain goes up and your ability to cope goes down.
I call this swimming in a pool of distress.
This video gives you three great tools you can use to get more distance from emotional pain.
Alexithymia is a form of neglect that is specifically directed at emotions and their meaning. The problem this causes is that it is harder to read other people's emotions and it is harder to know what you feel about something; in essense if this trait causes a problem it can be very confusing trying to understand what is happening. Your brain will tell you that you have a physical problem while your hidden emotions cause all sorts of physical issues.
An article by Eliza Burdon.
I had a client recently (Eliza) who started to talk about the experience of panic as a seemingly uncontrollable journey. I liked that idea very much and we started to call it The Chaos Train. I asked her to write an article about it as it seemed such a useful idea.
The train stops at stations on its journey to the hub. Along the way it picks up passengers and freight, (burdens to take to the hub) as each hub is reached the burdens are delivered and the result of them expressed. In the case of this particular Chaos Train they are panic, anxiety and sadness.
I think the fascinating insight Eliza had was that it all felt really chaotic and out of control. Of course it feels like that because it is panic but it is not as chaotic as it feels. The train has to stop at the stations on the way to the hub and pick up burdens otherwise there is nothing to take to the hub and nothing to be expressed. By making choices and deliberately not stopping at the stations on...
Learn how your brain tricks you into thinking and doing all sorts of crazy stuff. You won't believe it.