Strong negative emotions, such as those in depression, anxiety, stress and panic create a psychic gravitational pull that sucks you closer and closer into the problem. When you feel so close it's all you can see then it seems much larger than it is. Your emotional pain goes up and your ability to cope goes down.
I call this swimming in a pool of distress.
This video gives you three great tools you can use to get more distance from emotional pain.
Alexithymia is a form of neglect that is specifically directed at emotions and their meaning. The problem this causes is that it is harder to read other people's emotions and it is harder to know what you feel about something; in essense if this trait causes a problem it can be very confusing trying to understand what is happening. Your brain will tell you that you have a physical problem while your hidden emotions cause all sorts of physical issues.
An article by Eliza Burdon.
I had a client recently (Eliza) who started to talk about the experience of panic as a seemingly uncontrollable journey. I liked that idea very much and we started to call it The Chaos Train. I asked her to write an article about it as it seemed such a useful idea.
The train stops at stations on its journey to the hub. Along the way it picks up passengers and freight, (burdens to take to the hub) as each hub is reached the burdens are delivered and the result of them expressed. In the case of this particular Chaos Train they are panic, anxiety and sadness.
I think the fascinating insight Eliza had was that it all felt really chaotic and out of control. Of course it feels like that because it is panic but it is not as chaotic as it feels. The train has to stop at the stations on the way to the hub and pick up burdens otherwise there is nothing to take to the hub and nothing to be expressed. By making choices and deliberately not stopping at the stations on...
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